Redefine: BeaYOUtiful

 

This is particularly for my sisters! #Ladies... I feel for y'all. I know its a burden sometimes, too tough to bear. Battling with what the world says is "beautiful", while also fighting, trying to be "beayoutiful", and waring in your hearts to know exactly what type of "beautiful" men are actually attracted to. Who's definition do you buy? Either way, it seems like these scams always end up bankrupting you and leaving some of you ladies broke, and victimized. They have you spending ALL your money on the media's artificial definition of beauty, costing you all your time on that boys ever changing definition of beauty, and wasting all your emotions on your 2nd rate definition of beauty. So, I guess, because the economy is down-turning, we want to put a budget on beauty. Well, I am here to tell you what God says beautiful is. He is not asking anything from you, however, He is trying to invest in a stock in your life that will never lose value. True beauty can't be purchased, it is a free gift!

When I first met my girlfriend (Kamaria)- before seeing her in person, I saw her on facebook. First thought was oh, she is very attractive, but no more than just another pretty face. I honestly paid her no attention & she will tell you so. BUT, when I met her in person, *heart racing as I type* Oh My goodness!!! The Most Beautiful Woman I have EVER MET! Every time I see her it feels like the first time. Seriously, she shines with an aura that is divine. She walks with an angelic gracefulness, exudes purity, & is clothed with a virtuousness that captivates not just my eyes, but my heart, my mind, and My Spirit! To me she is more than gorgeous but she is GLORIOUS! Everything in me Lit Up!!! It wasn't her physical beauty that drew me per se, but her heart radiated like a moon-lit evening. True beauty is truly a breathtaking sight!

The sad thing about this is that many men don't know inner beauty when they see it. Many women focus so much on the outer appearance that they forget that they are a spirit and have a body (like washing the outside of the cup but the inside is dirty). The world portrays these images and ideologies of what beauty is, while completely ignoring God and His truth! God created this world to be appealing, and beautiful, it's a "representation" of His character, His glory, and His beauty. Physicality is important, but it's not the Primary thing.
True beauty is not external, it's eternal, so dress up your internal.
God will bring you someone who will appreciate your inner beauty, because it is precious to Him. He will give you someone who will take care of it and admire it for what it is!

We have to understand that what you bait, is what you attract. Why are you surprised you attract dogs if all you show is meat and bones? Why are you worried about men always looking at your breast and thighs when you running 'round like a chicken head! If you want men to respect you, you first have to demand it by respecting yourself. Especially for women who claim to be daughters and children of God. If you know your father [or better yet, pastor] would not let you walk out the house like that, what makes you think God would let you step out into the world like that?

Men, who run after new booty instead of true beauty will end up hating themselves for it, when they are stuck with bitter, contentious, sensual, greedy, nagging, gossiping, jealous, envious, impure women. (sorry *shrug*)
Beauty fades, hair grays, skin soon sags, abs turns to bags, hips eventually fold, and big butts get old.
Because true beauty is spiritual, it's never finished, it never fails, and it never falters -- it lasts forever.

How could you not appreciate who you are? How could you not thank God for Who He has made you?
Each and every one of you are uniquely formed! YOU are too beautiful to be like anyone else!!! Will you disrespect God by telling Him you don't like His work? Will you spit in His face by adding & taking away from His art, as if He didn't know what He was doing to begin with? Will you devalue and deface His property with tattoos, bulimic diets, sensuality and sexual immorality, and letting the world give you a make over? Will you refuse not to  look into His mirror (The Bible, James 1v23) to see your "spiritual" blemishes, spots and wrinkles?
If we got our approval from man, they might say we were okay, but if we were to ask God "how do we look?" I'm pretty sure He would say to some of us "fat, frail, ferocious, and just tacky!". A gentle, modest, loving character gives a light to the face that cannot be duplicated by the best cosmetics. A carefully groomed and well-decorated exterior is artificial and cold, like a barbie-doll unless inner beauty is present"
BE YOU!!!..tiful!!!
GRACE & PEACE! LOVE YALL!!!
BELOW ARE SOME SCRIPTURES & A VIDEO:

1 Peter 3:3 

Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

1 Timothy 2:9 

And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.

Proverbs 31:30

Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised

Psalms 139:14

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

1 Samuel 16:7
The LORD doesn't see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."

What if Actions ≠ Feeling

The thing about true love is it is perfect. The thing about us is that we are not.
 We have to grow in love.

 We mature to love, love and let love, love through us.

Love is a person, and life is all about becoming like that person who is love. 

Love is essence. When the exterior doesn't match what the essence is, the essence won't change but redeem the action that contradicted it.

 It will get back on the right track and continue to pursue love more. 

Being that we are imperfect, if we hurt the people we love, we will ultimately hurt as well.

Love is finding your joy, in the joy of another.
If you have true love for someone and want true joy for yourself, you will seek joy in the one you love that you may obtain it as well.
In our humanity, once we fail to display the actions of love, but have the affections of love, our hearts will convict us to recover what was broken, that our joy may be full.
1 Corinthian 13v7: 
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Invite love to live in our hearts and change us from the inside out

How Do You Know If Someone Loves You?

How do you uncover deception, when there are so many great deceivers?

When you find out what something is you will be able to discover what it is not.

 We can't see into peoples heart, we cant see peoples love, just what it causes them to do. 

People can do things with the wrong motives but their actions can appear right.

We won't find out those motives until they obtained what it was they wanted.

Being that God is a love, and God is a person, who has feelings,emotions, preferences and desires just as much as we do, we forget that love is a person.

So to truly have love, to truly know love, to truly recognize love, we need to know, have, and recognize God

How else would we do that except spend time with Him, let Him speak to us, we speak to Him, learn of Him, let Him teach us. 

As we understand how much He loves us, we will learn to love Him, in the meanwhile learning how to love, and recognizing it's authenticity.

God created us with the ability to Love so how can we possibly Love without Him?

We know if someone loves us by:

 1) Knowing if they love God more than they love us or anyone/thing else. In order to love us they first must love love.

2) Spending time with love to know, feel, & recognize it when we see it (Him). 

3) By comparing them to what love does, did, and will do, to the word of God. 

Love endures therefore love has to be tested, it has to pass the test of time

Love wants the best for you, what or who is best for you than the one who created you, what on earth is greater than God, so if a person is pushing you away from God (love) how can a person truly have love for you?

How Do You Know You Are In Love?

There are only two kinds of love real or fake

Love is consistent with God, His character, and His acts.

 He is all truth, consistent, pure. His character is real, holy, and true. His acts are just, fair, and righteous

Being that Love is action and feelings, it is measured in degrees of passion, It is not separated into types of love.
 The degree in which we love certain people will be greater based on the amount and type of affection and emotions we have for others (family, friends, spouse). 

When more feelings are involved this produces a greater action. 
When a type of feeling is involved this will produce a particular action.

However, the foundation of love is pure actions and feelings toward an individual.

So when we say "in love", we mean in infatuation, adoration, and affection, our are emotion are "all-in" (actions being consistent w/ radical feelings)
So its possible to have love for someone but not have real love for someone.
Perverted love is simply called lust.

When I say I love myself, it doesn't mean that I like everything about myself but simply means I want the best for myself.  I can want the wrong things for myself but think its the right things. It may seem i am loving myself by doing what i think, but in actuality i am hurting and hating myself by destroying myself.

Simply put Love wants what is good and beneficial for a person, it wants the best for the other person.

Loves ultimate desire is to see the object of that Love, be Most Happy. 

Love is not selfish, but selfless. True Love does portray self-interest.

True love desires to finds its joy "in" the joy of another.

Real love seeks others interests before its own, & because others interests are fulfilled, loves interest are as well, because love's interest is the interest of others.

You know you are in love when you find your happiness in the happiness of another's happiness.

This pushes the right motive (feeling) for love and produces the correct result (action) of love.

Love seeks a person's greatest interest at heart even if the action cause pain for an individual to eventually enjoy a greater future prosperity. Love becomes Justified in causing that pain.

What Is Love (revised)

Back Again! So lets get straight to it! Before when I wrote about love (What Is Love? (old)) I didn't have much of an experience to write off from. I made it clear that I was still discovering the essence of it. Since then I have learned, matured, and observed so much. Now i have come to what i know to be a definite definition of Love.

What is Love?

Well the best way to find out what something is, is to first find out what it's not..

If you were taking a test, and i just walked up to you and gave you the right answer, what would you have you learned?... Nothing

So before you read ahead, if you desire to get the most out of this and make this applicable to your life, tweet me @ept_anomaly, and let me know what you believe Love is before we get started.

The thing is, Truth doesn't contradict itself, anything absolute will endure any situation. 

Truth doesn't fail, fade, or faulter, and exists outside of our own experiences, perspectives, and beliefs. 

It's not based on how we feel, what we prefer, or what we think.

When you have one truth, you will have millions of lies, (one right answer means an infinite number of wrongs).
 One correct answer means there are alot of answer that seem correct but are not.
So how do we know if what we have is true, lest we test it.

If love wasn't definable how could we say we have it, know it, or feel it?
If Love does exist, then where did this concept come from?

If we don't know what it is or can't explain it, how can we even possess it?

To define something is to make it definite, meaning it won't change once the situation has been altered.

When we can't explain an emotion, affection, or feeling, we try to use a thought. 

When we can't explain what we know, think, and imagine, we use our words

When something is indescribable, and there are no words, sentences, or speech to explain it what do we use? 

Our actions. We always revert to situations, circumstances, events and ACTIONS. 

Love is actions, but it is stems from feelings. You can't separate the two. 
You can't always choose how you feel but you can choose what you do.

Love is not more than actions, nor is it less than feelings, it's a combination of both. 
Love is an act of the will that is accompanied by emotions. 

That's why you feel passion but also have a choice to perform. 

Love flows from the heart and the hand simultaneously.  

My definition of Love, is not my own, I received it from the greatest Author of the greatest book of any book ever written and any author has ever written.

When we say something "is" or (=) we are saying that they are the same. 

So when you say love "is", you describe its essence & inner workings.

Likewise we substitute it for another variable/format. EXAMPLE. if A is B, and B is C, then A is also equal to C

God is love, It doesn't say God has love, will love, can love, or even does love. 

God "IS" love, God = Love. 

Its the very make-up of his character, who he is and what he does! God is not changing and doesnt change.

God is Love. So lets get deeper. Given the example above, How can we "God" someone? 

How do we know if we are in "God" with someone. 

The Same book says love is also something else. A is B is C.

1Cor13 says Love is patient, kind, gentle, longsuffering, enduring.....

Love is a barrage of characteristics you choose to do, but must have the right affections behind it.
1 Corinthians 13v3 If I give away all that i have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love i gain nothing.

CHECK OUT THE LINK BELOW:

How Do You Know That You Are "In Love"

How Do You Know If Someone Loves You
What if Actions ≠ Feeling